Hi, I'm Mary!
Thanks for checking out Stability Within!
Everyone has a story. Here's mine...
It feels great to know it's ok to just be me and to experience peace, joy, and a life with meaning on a daily basis. Yet, this hasn't always been the case!
Growing up as a middle daughter of three, I often felt invisible. I wasn't the creative and adventurous oldest daughter, nor the cute and adorable baby sister, just the quiet, middle child who didn't want to disappoint or rock the boat.
That's not to say I was close to perfection or always made good choices. I didn't! I just never talked about what bothered me, what upset me, what I needed guidance with. I lacked the mindset which said,
"You're important. You're worth listening to, so I know Mother and Daddy
would love to help me."
(For the record, I had wonderful parents, but my self-imposed limiting beliefs had me believe I needed to earn my parents' attention and recognition, create an identity for myself, and make better decisions. )
During the next forty years, these quiet limiting beliefs were just under the surface triggered by certain circumstances and emotions. I thought they were normal. It's all I had known. I can tell you now, limiting beliefs may be common, but they don't have to be your normal!
It was actually my love for teaching and later at the age of 35, the joy of parenthood that gave my life meaning and brought fulfillment. Yet, this nagging sense of inadequacy would crop up in my thought process.
Flash forward 14 years. I was 49. I was loving my life, but with a false sense of security that life was grand and all was well. I was married with two wonderful daughters and loving parents, was principal in our community elementary school, was living in a neighborhood with friends, was actively involved in a small group and sang in the church choir. What wasn't good?
Until 2004, when the unexpected happened.
My husband of 25 years opted to leave (didn't see that one coming!).
One by one, the things that identified who I was were stripped away from my life.
My Dad ...passed away.
Carpool Mom... no longer needed, older daughter was 16.
My job...became part time with a new faculty and community.
So much change! So much grief!
I was "stranded" in the desert pondering the question:
So Who am I?
WHERE'S MY STABILITY & WHAT DEFINES MY IDENTITY?
I finally made the decision to go to work on myself. We always have a choice!
And I am so thankful I did!
I now feel confident in Who I am. I found the key to living freely, fully, confident, and empowered. .
This is your season to shine, to grow your legacy, to mentor and encourage, to have fun and be adventurous, to be adorable and laugh with friends, and to tackle that bucket list you've often dreamed about. What else do you want to complete or accomplish in your life time?
Ready to learn more? Every day counts. Today is where you begin to make your changes within, just like I did.
It begins with the decision to go to work on yourself.
Your BEST is yet to come, if you choose it!
It was true for me.
And it can be true for you, too.
MARY G NICHOLS
Life Coach for Women